Breaking Free from the Shackles of People-Pleasing: Embracing Your Authentic Self

Breaking Free from the Shackles of People-Pleasing: Embracing Your Authentic Self

Living a life guided by the expectations and opinions of others can be suffocating. People-pleasing, while often seen as a selfless act, can inadvertently rob us of our own happiness and fulfilment.

We often can think that we are being nice when we are in fact enabling others. We can also feel like that others will value us and all the things we do for them. Only to find out that most people don't really care about our generosity and we are left feeling let down, betrayed and bitter. 

In this blog post, we will delve into the emotional journey of breaking free from the people-pleasing trap, highlighting the profound impact it can have on one's life and the importance of embracing our authentic selves.

Lets explore these 4 core steps to breaking free from People-Pleasing:

1. The Illusion of Control: People-pleasing often stems from a deep-seated desire to control how others perceive us. We spend countless hours moulding ourselves into what we believe others want us to be. This is called the Shapeshifter Archetype (think chameleon) where we constantly adapt to other needs and to every situation. Its exhausting.  

   However, in this quest for acceptance, we often lose touch with our true desires and aspirations. By succumbing to the expectations of others, we risk wasting our precious time and energy on pursuits that do not align with our authentic selves. We end up activating the Prostitute Archetype and we give away our time, energy, emotions and life force to others. 

2. The Emotional Toll: The emotional toll of people-pleasing can be immense. Constantly seeking validation from others can leave us feeling empty and unfulfilled. Suppressing our own emotions and needs to accommodate others' desires can lead to resentment and a sense of lost identity.

   It is essential to recognize that our own happiness should not be dependent on the approval of others. By prioritizing our emotional well-being and honouring our true selves, we can break free from this cycle and find genuine fulfilment. This is activating the Lover Archetype and it happens when we finally start to say No to others and Yes to ourselves.

3. Rediscovering Authenticity: Letting go of people-pleasing requires a journey of self-discovery. It involves reconnecting with our authentic desires, values, and passions. Embracing vulnerability and allowing ourselves to express our true emotions is crucial in this process.

   By acknowledging our own worth and nurturing self-compassion, we empower ourselves to make choices that align with our true selves, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and purpose-driven life. This process can take time especially if we have been Shapeshifting for along time. In essence we don't really know who we truly are any more and this is a time of relearning oneself. 

4. Setting Boundaries: A fundamental aspect of breaking free from people-pleasing is learning to set healthy boundaries. It is important to establish clear limits on what we are willing to do for others without compromising our own well-being.

   This does not imply selfishness but rather self-respect and self-care. By communicating our boundaries assertively, we create space for our own growth and ensure that our time and energy are invested in pursuits that truly matter to us.

The journey to overcome people-pleasing is an emotional one.

However, by recognizing the impact it can have on our lives - wasting precious time, leaving us unfulfilled - we can take the necessary steps towards embracing our authentic selves.

Let us break free from the shackles of people-pleasing, reclaim our autonomy, and live a life guided by our own passions and desires. Remember, true fulfilment lies in honouring ourselves first and foremost.

To truly live an empowered life and be in our sovereign then we cannot people-please. Because that is not living our truth and not embodying our authentic selves.

We need to start asking ourselves...am I happy, am I empowered, am I living my purpose?

I have created an online course called, "Stop the People Pleaser". Which teaches about the main archetypes and programs behind people-pleasing. It has a fantastic journal that gives you PRACTICAL guidance on how to stop people-pleasing as well as meditations. Click HERE to grab it for just $27.

A lot of people who have a terrible people pleasing problem also have a fear of being seen. If you would like to check out my Youtube video of a Masterclass I did called, "How to become comfortable with being seen" click HERE to watch it. 

If you want to know more about the Consequences of People Pleasing on the Mind, Body & Soul then you can sign up for the replay to one of my webinars HERE at start watching straight away!